5th Core of Emotional Intelligence: Social Regulation

5th Core of Emotional Intelligence: Social Regulation

Top performing businesspeople understand that how they deal with others is what makes or breaks a career:

The telemarketer makes the slightest voice tone inflection to disarm his prospect;

The events coordinator has each of her suppliers paraphrase the specs she gave them so she knows they are 100% clear;

The lawyer for the prosecution uses his story-telling training to take the jury on a vivid journey of the events on the day of the murder;

The financial analyst uses a favour to get a friend-of-a-friend’s uncle to get a vital piece of information that will help with cost projections for mining operations in the Philippines;

The CEO juggles a fine balance between white-hot conviction and graceful composure to persuade the board to expand into new markets.

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Social Regulation Defined: The ability to influence the emotional clarity of others through a proficiency in managing relationships and building networks.

Being an adept communicator is the keystone of Social Regulation. Among managers, communications competence strongly distinguishes star performers from average or poor ones.

Social Regulation is underpinned by the other four cores of EQ. Listening well, they key to empathy, is the most crucial competence in getting your message across. As Peter Drucker would say, “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.”

Being aware of, and in control of our moods, are also essential to good communication. The reason that Ms. Parker gave for her slip up was that she was in a heated exchange, and apparently lost her ability to think clearly while under pressure. As the saying goes, “Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”

The 8 core components of Social Regulation are:

1. Influence (wielding effective tactics for persuasion) 2. Communication (listening openly and sending clear, convincing messages to others) 3. Conflict Management (negotiating and dissolving disagreements) 4. Leadership (inspiring and guiding individuals and groups regardless of position) 5. Change Catalyst (initiating and/or managing change) 6. Building Bonds (nurturing instrumental relationships for building strong connections) 7. Collaboration and Cooperation (working with others toward shared goals) 8. Team Capabilities (creating group synergy in pursuing collective goals)

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Social Regulation Quotes:

“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” - Theodore Roosevelt

“Remember that the people that you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation.” - Dale Carnegie

“My advice to salesmen is this: pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, "Make me feel important." Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life.” - Mary Kay Ash

“There are two things people want more than sex and money... recognition and praise." - Mary Kay Ash

“Wise words often fall on barren grounds, but a kind word is never thrown away.” - Arthur Helps

“The people who I have trouble dealing with… are people who tend to not give full information. They purposefully leave out certain parts of the story – they distort facts.” - Shelley Lazarus

“What we say is true and forthcoming – not just technically correct.” - Dell Inc.’s Code of Conduct

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” - George Bernard Shaw

“Diplomacy is the art of saying 'Nice doggie' until you can find a rock.” - Will Rogers

“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic. People know this and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don't even invite me.” - Dave Barry

“The ability to deal with people; I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.” - John D. Rockefeller

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